Get ready for some exciting news – I’m moving out of my parents’ house and starting a new adventure! But before I go, I wanted to share with you the 10 Life Lessons I’ll Never Forget moving back in with my parents. It wasn’t always easy, but through the challenges and struggles, I gained a new perspective on life that I want to pass along to you. So let’s dive into these life lessons and get inspired to live our best lives!
Here’s what happened
One of the life experiences that taught a lesson that I would never forget is moving back in with my parents. Moving back in with my parents was never part of my plan. After leaving for college, I had no intention of returning home – I even spent a year as an expat in Taiwan! While it was an incredible experience, it left me feeling uncertain about my future.
When I returned to the States, I set a goal for myself: move in with my parents for three years, get a master’s degree, and then move on. Well, those three years have come and gone, and I’m more than ready to start the next chapter of my life.
But looking back, I realize that living with my parents taught me some valuable life lessons. So without further ado, here are the 10 most important lessons I learned during my time moving back in with my parents
1. It is Okay To Move Back In
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you needed to make a tough decision about your living situation? That’s exactly what happened to me. After leaving for college and spending some time living abroad, I found myself back at my parents’ house.
At first, I was hesitant about the idea of moving back in with them, but as I quickly learned, sometimes it’s necessary to take a step back and regroup. Moving back in with my parents allowed me to reboot and focus on my goals without the added stress of financial and living expenses.
It was a humbling experience, but one that taught me valuable life lessons that I will never forget. So, if you’re ever faced with a similar decision, remember that it’s okay to take a step back and seek the support you need to move forward.
2. I Am Not A Failure
Lesson number two was perhaps the most important one for me: I am not a failure. When I first moved back in with my parents, I couldn’t shake off the feeling that I had somehow failed in life.
But over time, I came to realize that needing support doesn’t equate to failure. In fact, it takes a great deal of courage to admit that you need help, and I was lucky enough to have parents who were willing and able to provide that support.
Rather than feeling ashamed or embarrassed about my situation, I learned to see it as a blessing. Sometimes, life can be tough and we all need a helping hand to get through the rough patches. If you ever find yourself in a similar position, don’t hesitate to seek out support.
Accepting help doesn’t make you weak or a failure – it makes you human. And who knows, you may even discover that the support you receive helps you to grow stronger and achieve your goals.
3. Patience Is An Actual Virtue.
Moving back in with your parents requires patience, as the saying goes, “Patience is a virtue.” Without it, you may find it difficult to adjust to living with your parents again. When I moved back home, I was expected to take on various roles, from fixing broken items in the house to acting as my parents’ tech support. I even became a mediator between my parents and my grown siblings when issues arose.
Suddenly, I was everything to everyone, and to fulfill those roles, I had to develop patience quickly. The saying became more than just a quote; it was my reality.
Without it, I would have been unable to handle the challenges that came with living with my parents again. In retrospect, learning to cultivate patience was one of the most valuable lessons I learned during my time living with my parents.
4. Money Management Is Important
If you’re struggling with managing your money, it might be time to consider moving back in with your parents. Trust me, the embarrassment of having them watch you struggle will motivate you to get your finances in order.
As someone who’s been there, I can attest that moving back home was a wake-up call for me. I had to learn how to budget effectively and be more mindful of my spending habits. Now, I’m proud to say that I’ve become a master at budgeting (yes, it’s a word!).
In fact, I’ve even written a post on my blog about how to create a budget that works for you. Feel free to check it out, and if you’re still struggling, don’t hesitate to join my mailing list and reach out to me for help. Trust me, I’ve been in your shoes and I know how tough it can be, but with the right strategies, you can turn your finances around.
5. Goal Setting is Important
Moving back in with parents can be a challenging experience, and it was no different for me. In the first week, my mother and I had a major argument that strained our relationship. It was a wake-up call for me that I needed to take control of my life and make the most of the opportunity to live with my parents.
Goal setting played a crucial role in helping me turn things around. I learned to set smart goals, which allowed me to define a clear path and take steps toward achieving them. It was a game-changer for me, and I saw significant improvements in various aspects of my life.
If you are struggling with setting goals, I highly recommend signing up for my mailing list and getting my free goal-setting planner.
Trust me, setting goals and working towards them can help you break out of feeling stuck in life and give you a sense of purpose and direction. With determination, hard work, and the right mindset, you can achieve anything you set your mind to
6. I Love Adulting
As a millennial, it’s easy to complain about being an adult. The hashtag #adulting is everywhere on the internet. However, my experience of moving back in with my parents has made me realize that being an adult is not all that bad.
The freedom to do what we want, when we want, is truly priceless. Unfortunately, that kind of freedom isn’t easily achievable when you’re back at home with your parents.
For me, it felt like there was constant judgment, even if it was unintentional. Paying bills and taking care of responsibilities wasn’t what I had in mind, but it’s made me appreciate the value of having my own space. And it is something you learn to really appreciate when moving back in with you parents is your only option.
So now, I embrace #adulting with open arms.
7. I Have Boundaries, and They Should Be Respected
Learning to set and enforce boundaries is a vital life skill that is often overlooked. Moving back in with my parents taught me that boundaries are not just necessary, but they are also healthy for both parties involved.
I learned that it is okay to say “no” to things that do not align with my values, beliefs, or goals. It is okay to prioritize my mental, emotional, and physical well-being over pleasing others. Setting boundaries allowed me to take control of my life and create a sense of balance and harmony in my relationships.
Nowadays, I practice setting and enforcing boundaries in all areas of my life. I no longer feel guilty or ashamed for saying no or standing up for myself. Boundaries have empowered me to become a stronger and more confident person, and for that, I am grateful.
8. It’s Okay To Say “No.”
Growing up Haitian is tough. Especially since my culture dictates who I should be as a woman. We have clear defined sex roles and rules that we abide by. So, imagine the shock of my parents and family’s face when I started saying no to them. Their world was “shocketh.” But still, I said no and I stuck to my no’s.
It was not easy for me to say no to them, but I learned that saying no doesn’t mean that I don’t love them any less. It means that I matter and I have to establish that. I have to establish who I am as a person and not what society or my culture tells me to be.
Saying no also allowed me to set boundaries with my family, which was much needed. It gave me the power to choose what I want and to not be forced into doing something I don’t want to do. And I think that is one of the greatest lessons that I learned moving back in with my parents.
9. Self-Care is The Best Care
Self-care is crucial for maintaining good mental health and overall well-being. Moving back in with parents may seem like a step backward, but it can be a chance to learn how to prioritize self-care. Setting boundaries, saying no, and taking time for oneself are all vital components of self-care.
Learning to take care of oneself also means understanding what brings joy and happiness. By taking the time to explore personal likes and dislikes, one can begin to build a life that reflects their values and interests.
Self-care doesn’t have to be elaborate or expensive. It can be as simple as taking a bubble bath or going for a walk. Whatever form it takes, self-care is essential for leading a fulfilling life.
10. There Is Value In Forgiveness
Another important life lesson that I learned from moving back in with my parents is the value of forgiveness. Living with my parents again brought up past grievances and issues that we had never fully resolved.
But through communication and the willingness to forgive, we were able to heal our relationship and move forward. I realized that holding onto grudges and resentment only harms me and prevents me from fully enjoying my relationships with others. Forgiveness is a powerful tool for personal growth and a key component of healthy relationships.
Overall, moving back in with my parents taught me valuable lessons about responsibility, boundaries, self-care, goal-setting, and forgiveness. While the experience was not always easy, I am grateful for the growth and self-discovery that came out of it. I hope that sharing my story can inspire others to embrace the challenges of adulting and find their own path to personal growth and fulfillment.
There You Have It
In conclusion, “10 Things I Learned from My Parents” while moving back in with them can be a challenging experience, but it can also provide valuable lessons and opportunities for personal growth. From setting boundaries to learning to say no and taking care of oneself, these experiences can help individuals navigate adulthood and gain a deeper understanding of their values, goals, and priorities. So, if you find yourself in this situation, take advantage of the opportunity to learn, grow, and become a better version of yourself. Remember, it’s never too late to start making changes and creating the life you want, and your parents can be a source of wisdom and support along the way.
There you have it, folks. The 9 Life Lessons Learned Moving Back In With My Parents. Let me know what you think or if you want to know more. I can’t wait to hear from you. In the meantime, come pin with me on Pinterest share with me on Instagram and hang out with me on Facebook.